I bet you thought that for this third stop in our time machine we were going to travel to the future, didn’t you?
Well we are, but only to tomorrow. More about that in a minute.
Don’t live in the future
I don’t know about you, but I spend too much energy imagining what the future will be like, and too little time living here and now.
It’s understandable; we want to believe that in some mythical future, we’ll be perfect, our lives exactly as we want. But let’s be honest, now we have more time behind us than in front, it’s important to live right now.
Balancing our lives
So then how do we balance the past, present and future?
If you’ve been playing along with this series of posts, first you will have visited your teenage self. As teenagers we dealt with core issues of identity fuelled by raging hormones… hmm, well perhaps those long-ago selves were dealing with transitions not so very different from those of us who are menopausal!
Which brings us to our examination of the present. What did you discover? What delights you, what do you experience as negative?
We’ll talk about the negatives in a post next week, but for now, let’s talk about your unexpressed dreams and how to knit them together with your delights.
How are your teenage dreams reflected in your life now? What part of those dreams was deeply true to your real self? And which of them do you still yearn for?
Sometimes, what we think we want actually reflects a slightly different yearning. It can be helpful to look at early dreams as an indicator of the gifts you are called to express.
Was it your dream to be a vet? Perhaps what’s really important to you is to develop a talent for healing, or to rescue mistreated animals. A dancer, singer, artist? Perhaps your truth is to create beauty of some kind, or to entertain others. A perfect wife and mother? To nurture and teach. A business mogul? To lead, to make a difference, to wear wonderful clothes. (Just kidding with the clothes. Mostly.)
So choose one of your unrealised dreams and take it for a mental test drive. What would your life be like if this dream had come true? Sink into it, live it, visualise it. Ask yourself ‘how do I feel’. (This is often difficult for those of us who think too much, but our emotions are signposts to our lives.)
What about tomorrow?
So tomorrow, take the kernel of that unrealised dream – the feeling that it provoked – and think of one small action you could take that would move you closer to that feeling.
I can’t tell you what it might be for you, but I’ll share my own dream.
I wanted to be a writer. I wanted to enter that magical world of creation in which just the right pattern of black and white marks on paper spins golden threads enclosing a universe of wonder. And the feeling entering that dream gives me is one of connection with some current around me, some force (and I say that on Star Wars Day!) that I can feel but not see.
So I’ve decided that my one small action tomorrow will be to go out into my garden early in the morning, and to write a haiku based on whatever it is I see there. It doesn’t matter if what I write is objectively good, it will be a way of tapping into the seen and unseen world around me.
What about you?